chances are if you are under the age of 19 you’ve already contemplated thoughts of suicide – especially you guys. (studies show that guys attempt, and succeed at, suicide more often than girls.) because of problems and drama and turmoil some of you have more than likely thought that the only solution was just to close your eyes and never wake up again.
life is tough! too many expectations and often times not enough support! family trauma and turmoil! parents divorcing! sibling rivalry! neglect from two-income households! dating! rejection! self-esteem! bullying! ADHD! ADD! learning disorders that make school work difficult! ugh! so much every day drama!
the average teen can easily be overwhelmed by life! hormones are beginning to go crazy, the body is changing rapidly, and emotions are being controlled by chemical imbalances in the brain. with all this going on it’s no wonder so many teens feel hopeless. and – if there isn’t a good strong family bond to support young people, no wonder they feel all alone! so much happening inside their brains leaving them feeling freakishly abnormal and isolated in a cold, dark, scarey place!
well, guys and gals, i’m here to tell you you’re not alone!! you are not the only one to feel this way. if you were to poll all your friends, and if they were to be totally honest with you, every one of them would tell you they have felt the exact same way at one time or another. feelings of desperation and lonliness are not unique to you. they are normal. YOU are normal.
suicide is the number three killer of adolescents and teens. dealing with the difficulties of life seems too enormous of a feat and the only logical solution to some is to just end it all! confused and desperate for relief some turn to the only thing they believe will help, but i want you to choose differently!
the first thing you have to learn, if you want to control the thougths of suicide, is that you are absolutely normal. the thoughts and feelings that flood your mind, the awkwardness and nervousness you feel, the strange new emotions and desires are all normal and not unique to you. “there is nothing new under the sun.” – ecclesiates 1:9 you are not a freak who has landed here from an alien planet! you are just like everyone else.
secondly, you have to know that you are special just the way you are. your looks, personality, stature, hair color, hair texture, everything about you, is just the way it’s supposed to be. you were created by a loving God who doesn’t create junk! “for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are Your works, and that my heart knows very well.” – psalm 139:14 does that mean you can’t improve? no, you are to be a very good steward of what God has blessed you with. but it does mean you don’t have to try to change to become something you’ll never be. you don’t have to. work with what you’ve got. God wants you to be just the way He created you!
thirdly, you must know that God has a good future for you even if your circumstances don’t seem like it right now. “for I know the thoughts that I think towards you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” – jeremiah 29:11 your life may seem in shambles, and maybe some really horrible things are happening to you, but your future is bright! God is standing ready to make the “great exchange” with you. He will take the ugliness your life has been and give you something beautiful instead! “to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.” – isaiah 61:3
and lastly, you don’t have to handle things on your own. life can be overwhelming for ANYONE to handle alone, especially a teenager. life was never meant for us to handle alone. God places people in our lives such as pastors, counselors, teachers, family, and friends who can help carry our burden for when life is overwhelming us. yes, there are those rare occassions when someone literally has “no one” (seemingly) to turn to in a difficult situation, but one ALWAYS has Jesus. “there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” – proverbs 18:24 Jesus loves you and wants you to depend on Him to help you out of a tight spot. “casting all your care upon Him for He cares for you.” – I peter 5:7
so, you see, suicide is NOT the answer to life’s problems. sure, life can seem overwhelming at times, but leaving this ole world is NOT the solution. God has a purpose for you or He would never have allowed you to be born. He has great things for you! the things you are going through can one day bring hope and healing to someone else going through the same things. DON’T GIVE UP! be a fighter! be determined to make your life count for something good! be determined to fulfill all that God has for you! use your difficulties to help someone else out of their difficulties! you can do it! you were created to soar!!